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Super-stretched… but not broken!

By March 1st, 2015Uncategorized13 min read
I have been privileged to share
the company of some pretty remarkable women in a class I’m currently taking. I
love how we bonded so easily from the first. Amidst all the learning is a whole
lot of laughter and love, sharing and growing together….. And being that I am a
‘women’s woman’ you can be sure that
I’m simply loving this space. In the very first class we had,
the professor facilitating the session had asked each of us how we were feeling
at that point in time. As it came the turn of this absolutely intelligent,
sweet and funny young woman who we have all adopted as our official baby sister
(and whose permission I do have to share this story), she dropped some words
the Lord has used to inspire this post.
So Tolani (let’s call her that
shall we?) said to the class that she is dealing with quite a lot at this point
in time. She has a young marriage and two young children, one just a few months
old. Her father had died halfway into her pregnancy for her second child, and
even through trying to deal with the trauma of losing her dad, she has found
herself having to take over the running of his business in the interest of the
family. She is juggling a young family with dependent children, with the strain
of trying to prove herself in the business space – outside of her father’s
shadow and rather large shoes he has left her to fill; having to deal with
people so much older than she is, people who are used to the old established
ways of doing things, and the attendant resistance to change that is inherent
in such situations. Then Tolani said, ‘This
is my reality, but I’m dealing with it. Truth is that I’m super-stretched, but
I’m not broken. And that is what counts’
You know sis, as she said those
words, I felt them resonate deep in my spirit and I thought ‘YES…that’s just it!’ I sent her a
message later that evening to tell her I would like to use her experience and
words to do a post, and she laughed and said to proceed by all means.
Super-stretched, but not broken!
Wow, sis! I suspect that even if I didn’t write a single word hereafter you
would be able to relate to this. I mean, truthfully this is the state many of
us find ourselves in at one time or the other right? It strikes me though that
when our responsibilities and/or troubles come … and of a certainty they do,
and they will; we sometimes completely lose ourselves under the weight of the
things that we are dealing with. Sometimes we are so bogged down with things
pulling at us from so many different directions, that we can barely find it in
ourselves to remember that God is in control and that He has assured us that
there is nothing that will come our way that He has not given us the strength
to bear, and the way of escape.
Sometimes, we allow ourselves be
so crippled with fear in the face of our current travails, that we are truly
unable to think rationally, to take the right actions, or indeed ay action at
all. Sometimes, the weight of our work-space responsibilities and pressures take
us so far away from the passions, personal aspirations, and the things that
truly satisfy us – keeping us busy yes, but without a sense of purposefulness
and fulfillment that we so desperately crave. Sometimes sis, we are dealing
with so much in our personal spaces that we walk around perpetually angry at
the world and especially at those who don’t seem to have any problems.
Sometimes, we can barely raise a smile or a kind word to our spouses, children,
or other loved ones who are around us.
Sometimes we can barely pray,
much less spend time reading the Word of God. Yes sis, sometimes our
‘realities’ are so overwhelming that we literally allow them take on a gigantic
life of their own and we lose ourselves in the whirlwind of emotions and
frustrations that assail us on every side. Sometimes, sis…… sometimes!
Sometimes, it’s really all just too much!
Today I want to encourage you sis
to shift perspective. You know this is what I constantly advocate right? I
truly believe we win or lose on this side of eternity largely based on the
perspectives we choose to adopt and whose word we choose to stand on. Today, I
ask that you and I shift gear and take life head-on in a new and more vibrant
way, the God way. Yes sis, so how about we look at our realities from the
spiritual dimension of Tolani’s perspective…. ‘Super-stretched, but not broken’ 
What a delightful confession this is, sis. Simply delightful! And so
I’m super-stretched sis, as you
probably are too. Why? Because my darling friend, we are privileged, we are
blessed. Personally I’m juggling the roles of servant of God, wife, mother,
homemaker, entrepreneur, boss, professional colleague, daughter, sister,
friend, writer, speaker, trainer, mentor, board and exco member, etc. Not an
easy set of balls to juggle, sis. Not at all! Each cap I wear comes with its
own set of responsibilities and therefore its own set of competing challenges
and demands on me and my time. I am sure you can more than relate.
However,  the perspective I have intentionally
chosen to adopt, is that I’m super-stretched because I’m privileged, because
God loves me, and because He has somehow chosen and qualified me to deliver on
specific assignments that He has also graced me to achieve.
I’m super-stretched because I
have the privilege to be a wife in a world where tons of women – my age, older and
younger than I am, are single and searching; desirous of being married,
constantly crying out to the Lord from the place of deep loneliness, doubt and
fear. I am super-stretched because being a wife places certain demands on me,
but I can handle this because I am privileged to be ‘wife’ and not ‘widow’.
I’m super-stretched because I have four children, a privilege in an era where
too many families are crying out to God for the blessing of the fruit of the
womb. I am super-stretched because while I have to juggle mothering two
children overseas and two at home, I am privileged to have the resources to do
this, and also because it means my children are growing and moving forward
successfully into the next phases of their lives. I am privileged in this
super-stretched mothering state, because it means I am privileged not have had
to bury any or all of my children (and never will, in Jesus name) and because
my children are privileged to have their parents alive, well, and very much
there for them as they journey into adulthood.
I am super-stretched because I
have cooking, cleaning and organizing to do, a home to run. But this stretching
is because of the exact privilege of having a home, of not being out on the
streets, of having a family – and a close, loving one at that. I am
super-stretched because I have loads of work to do at the office, but this is
borne out of the privilege I have to run the businesses that I do, and to have
them grow and prosper as they have. It is also because I am privileged to have
a mind that is sound and intelligent, eyes that see, ears that hear, a mouth
that speaks, a body that is whole. I have loads of work to do because I have
opportunities to tap into, helpers and resources to manage, etc.  I am super-stretched because I have articles
to write, speeches to present, training’s to deploy; but again this is because I
have the privilege of having something to say, and people who believe in me
enough to listen, and the privilege of the opportunity to add value to the
lives of God’s children around the world.
I could go on sis, but I believe
you get my drift. I’m super-stretched sis…. but I’m not broken! And how can I
break sis? I can’t break because my God has given me the ‘capacity to flex’. Yes, He has imbued me with strength from on
high. He has been so true to His word in my life. He has! He said He would not
give me any weight He has not already empowered me to be able to bear. He has
said He would never leave me nor forsake me. He has said I can freely cast my
cares upon Him and that He will sustain me. He has said His strength is made
perfect in my weakness, and I have seen His strength manifest on my behalf time
and again. He has said He would work all things out for my good. He has said He
will give me beauty for ashes.
He has said His plans for me are
good and not evil. He has said His mercies over me are new every morning and oh
how true this has been and is! He has said He causes grace to abound towards me
daily. He has said He knows my end from my beginning, and He has said my end is
good. I believe Him; it’s that simple! He has strengthened my hands to battle.
He has assured me that I have victory in Him. He has said any captivity I have will
be turned around. He has assured me that even where I am a lawful captive, He
will set me free. He has assured me that He has and will break gates of brass,
and cut asunder any bars of iron that stand in my way. He has assured me that
by His anointing, every yolk that comes upon me shall be broken and every
burden shall be lifted from my shoulder. He has assured me that He will never
leave me nor forsake me. He has assured me that He will help me, that by His
mighty right hand of righteousness He will help and uphold me.
I’m not broken sis, and I will
not break. And you know what? Neither will you. Life may do its best to break
us, but as long as we anchor ourselves in God and the assurances of His word,
then no matter how life stretches us, we will not be broken. But sis, this is
exactly what we must not lose sight of… that we must anchor ourselves in God
and in His Word! We need to stay connected to Him as our Source, our Helper and
our Ally. We need to hide His word in our heart so that it builds us up in our
inner man and is available to us as a shield when the storms and pressures of
life come. We need to stay close to God so that we are not disconnected from
His voice and His presence. Indeed in the midst of life’s super-stretching, His
voice is the one sure navigator we need to hold us steady and see us safely
Find the Lord for yourself sis,
and whatever else you do… don’t let go! If you already have a relationship with
Him, draw closer still! In Him it is that we live and move and have our being.
In Him alone is our confidence and trust. In Him alone is our quietness and peace
during the storms, and certainly in Him alone is our victory. He is our ‘flex’
sis, our ability to bounce back out of every season of stretching that life
throws our way. In the middle of life’s challenges, He is ultimately the only
thing that makes sense! What better foundation is there to stand on than this?
I don’t intend to in any way diminish
or make light of the weight of whatever it is you are going through now, sis. I
dare not, for indeed I am dealing with one thing too many at this time as well
myself. But super-stretched as I am sis, by the power of God, I will not break!
I choose to see my tests, trials, pressures, challenges, storms… by whatever
names the stretching present themselves, simply as avenues through which the
Lord is building my muscles – in flesh and in spirit, for a greater tomorrow…..
not just for me, but for everyone else whom I will be privileged to have Him
bring into my life so I can walk them through their own stretching and into
victory. Can you be as equally intentional about adopting this same perspective
sis? You can? That’s my girl! The Lord will help you sis… even as surely as He
is helping me.
Be blessed sis…. for you surely


  • Atinuke says:

    Super duper stretched but unbreakable. All I need is to add music to these words and dance my dance of victory because for a fact, that is my story.

    The fact that I am able to look at the past and say "my, it was touch and go for a minute there" only means I came out on top of that and I will come out on top of all that come my way. Praise be to God Almighty. Alleluia.

    Thanks sis for sharing this and for heeding The Spirit as Sister 'Tolani ' was speaking. It surely renews the strength in my spirit and puts a spring to my steps.

    Thank you

  • Awuneba says:

    Excellent post. Thanks for sharing.

  • Lanre kosoko says:

    This has surely blessed Me. God reward you abundantly in Jesus mighty name.

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