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This Love Thing

By February 14th, 2016Uncategorized8 min read
It’s that time of year again. Valentines’ Day! You couldn’t pretend
not to know it if you tried. For the last couple of weeks it seemed like
everywhere you looked the color red popped out at you. I really admire the
tenacity of retailers, sis. Even in the trying economic landscapes they held
strong to the traditions of men, hoping for a seasonal boost in an otherwise
dismal looking year ahead. That doesn’t sound too ‘doom and gloom’-like Does it? I hope not. I actually am one of those who believe strongly
that God’s children are designed to thrive in these times as long as they play
by the rules of Kingdomnomics rather
than economics, and so the goings on in the world don’t bother me like that.
But the worlds economics is a topic for another day; today we deal with
the love thing, lol.
As I typed that last phrase, Tina
Turner’s song ‘What’s love got to do with
’ began to play in my head. And really, for those of us who know better,
the genesis of Valentine’s Day is some pagan festival that really had nothing
to do with love in the first place. How we got to where we had a need to set
aside a specific day of the year to celebrate every little thing, I have no
clue. Thinking through the fact that God has said to us that the greatest
commandment is that we love Him first, and then love our neighbors as we love
ourselves; it seems reasonable to me that the call to love is a daily demand
that transcends the ‘celebration’ of love on any one specific day.
The frenzy with which the cards,
the gifts, the romantic dinners and getaways are planned; the desperate
spending and completely unwarranted (in my view) efforts to out-do each other
in these ‘expressions’ of love at Valentine, completely baffle me. I guess I’m
just getting old! Really, that must be it because I once looked forward to
February 14th with some level of anticipation too. Did I hear you
laugh? Well, you know sis that age and wisdom are not necessarily related so
this is not about the number of years you and I have spent on the earth, is it?
Or maybe it is that as I mature in my walk as a Christian I am seeing many
things that I had previously accepted as ‘normal’ through new lenses. Or maybe,
as my people say, ‘na de two-both-of-them
dey do me’…. hee hee hee!
Seriously though, I just haven’t
been able to whip up any excitement about Valentines’ day this year. Please
don’t get me wrong, I don’t question those who do. Like I said, I used to ride
that train….. And who knows, maybe next year I will be singing a different
song. At this time however, all I can see and feel deeply really is God’s love
for me and how He has made this manifest in so many ways all through my life.
God has been faithful, sis. He has! That He loved me enough in my mess of the
past, that He loves me enough through my imperfections of today…. I can’t put a
price on this. I simply can’t!
So here is where I anchor my
thoughts and challenge to you today, sis. And believe me, it’s a personal
challenge to me too. There is one major question on my heart, and it filters
down into a series of questions…… Sis, check the level of your preparations for
Valentines’ Day. Think about your excitement, the build-up, and the efforts you
have made to get just the right card.
Think about the effort that went into planning and selecting that red outfit
that was just so right for today.
Think about the passion with which you ran around from shop to shop, or browsed
site to site trying to find that incredible gift that would ‘wow’ that special one in your life…
Think about it all sis, and then
ask yourself: ‘When last did I spend so
much time and energy and money trying to show God how much I love Him and how
grateful I am for Him in my life
?’ Ask yourself, ‘When last did I pursue my passion for God, for His word, for His face,
His presence, with the same intensity with which I prepared for Valentines’
’ Ask yourself, ‘When last did I
excitedly plan and purpose time out with God – to be alone with Him and to
love on Him as truly and as deeply as my heart can summon at any one time?

Do you get my drift sis? Do you
I tell you what? Let’s not even
over-spiritualize this thing. Love is not only about us and God is it? Err…it
is actually – any way you look at it, but let’s not go there now. Let’s look at
our various relationships. It is a big question just how passionately,
intentionally and consistently we pursue expressions of love to our husbands,
children, friends, loved ones, colleagues at work, etc. I ask again, how did we
get to where the effort revolves around one day, and then for the rest of the
year we revert to status quo? Should the efforts to express love be more
intense on Valentines’ day, birthdays, and at Christmas alone? Hmm!
Like I said earlier, when I think about God’s
commandment that we should love Him above all else, and then love our neighbors
as ourselves, I kind of see this whole love thing very differently, sis. You
see, God’s love is steady and sure. It is consistent. It is persistent. It is
passionate above all else and it is purposeful. It is a love that covers. It is
a love that embraces. It is a love that forgives. It is a love that gives
sacrificially. It is a love that only contends for our good. And it is a love
that gives its fullest expression day in and day out.
Yes, sis. If we look at this love
thing through the eyes of Christ then we should wake up every single day
purposed to express love to God and to those around us in some tangible way. We
would be constantly on the lookout for avenues to bless God with our time, our
praise, our service. We would approach each new day with an attitude of prayer,
asking ‘Lord, show me who I can bless
today and how, so that I might deliver glory to You – which is my ultimate act
of reciprocated love’
. Sis, if we did this, we would be less prone to
offence, more forgiving, more understanding, more giving. We would manifest
love in its purest sense daily because it will emanate from the true position
of our hearts. We would walk in the understanding that our daily expressions of
love are our service to God, our obedience to His ultimate commandment, and well
pleasing to His own heart. How amazing is that? I can’t describe enough how
uplifting it is when God tells me that I make Him smile, sis…. when He lets me know that I am
pleasing to Him. Simply awesome!
I don’t know sis… I don’t know if
I have ended up preaching ‘at’ you. Please forgive me if I have. I really just
wanted to get you to the place of realizing that God is worthy of so much more
than most of us give Him and we need to rework this equation. We need to pursue
Him with more intensity than we do the many material things, the many
traditions of men, the many worldly achievements and aspirations that tend to
consume our time and energy, leaving us too drained to give Him the best of us.
Sis, today is as good as any for
you and I to shift our perspectives where this love thing is concerned; to
refocus our hearts and to ask the Holy Spirit to help us do this. I pray you
can see this as clearly as I do, sis. I truly hope so! I pray that the Holy
Spirit will minister this to you with added clarity, sis. I trust Him to do
that. I trust Him to always help you, as surely as He always helps me.

Be blessed sis…. for you surely


  • Unknown says:

    Indeed my sweets it all starts and ends with God. Thank you for adding to my aha moment 😘

  • Abimbola says:

    My heart say 'Yes' Lord. A refocusing message of the most important love of all – loving our heavenly Father so completely, it pours out into the lives of those around us. An in depth exploration of an underling feeling misalignment of the heart workings. Thank you for this 'aha' moment like Eyiyemi stated above.

  • Unknown says:

    "Thinking through the fact that God has said to us that the greatest commandment is that we love Him first, and then love our neighbors as we love ourselves; it seems reasonable to me that the call to love is a daily demand that transcends the ‘celebration’ of love on any one specific day." These lines capture the essence of this write up for me sis. Audrey. This is pure truth.I still have these same thoughts about today:
    While I do not castigate anyone who celebrates this ‘Lovers Day,' I know that a lot of people just get caught up in the hype and do not really care for it. Personally, I’m married to a man who does not wait for valentine to show me love and vice versa. One of the hallmarks of our relationship is that we keep looking for ways of expressing our love to each other.
    By the time the Valentine season comes around, there is really nothing special about the day for me because we try as much as possible to create our own valentines.
    God is the Source of true love and He spreads His love abroad in our hearts by the inner workings of His Spirit so that we can love like He does and not define love in the world's terms. Great article sis. Audrey- quite an eye opener.

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